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InOctober1982,a25-year-oldwomanfinishedtheNewYorkCityMarathon。Nobigdeal—untilyoulearnthatLindaDownhascerebralalsyandwasthefirstwomanevertocomletethe26。2-mileraceoncrutches。Downfellhalfadozentimes,butketgoinguntilshecrossedthefinishline,11hoursaftershestarted。Herhandicalimitedherseedbutnotherdetermination。
HenryWadsworthLongfellowoncewrote:
"Greatistheartofbeginning,butgreatertheartisofending。
"Howniceitwouldbeifweallhadageniewhocouldhelusfinishwhatwebegin。Unfortunately,wedont。Butwhatwedohaveisadynamiccalleddisciline—whichextractsahighrice。FollowingoneofPaderewskiserformances,afansaidtohim,
"Idgivemylifetolaylikethat。
"Thebrilliantianistrelied,
"Idid。
"
Accomlishmentisoftendecetivebecausewedontseetheainanderseverancethatroducedit。Sowemaycredittheachieverwithbrains,brawnorluckybreaks,andletourselvesoffthehookbecausewefallshortinallthree。Notthatwecouldallbeconcertianistsjustbyexercisingenoughdisciline。Rather,eachofushasthemakingsofsuccessinsomeendeavor,butwewillachievethisonlyifwealyourwillsandworkatit。
Howcanweacquirestick-at-itiveness?Thereisnosimle,fastformula。ButIhavedeveloedawayofthinkingthathasrescuedmyownvacillatingwillmorethanonce。Herearethebasicelements:
"Dont
"ower
Thisisasimortantaswillower。TheancientChinesehilosoherMenciussaid,
"Menmustbedecidedonwhattheywillnotdo,andthentheyareabletoactwithvigorinwhattheyoughttodo。
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Discilinemeanschoices
Everytimeyousayyestoagoalorobjective,yousaynotmanymore。Everyrizehasitsrice。Therizeistheyes;thericeistheno。IgorGorin,thenotedUkrainian-Americanbaritone,toldofhisearlydaysstudyingvoice。Helovedtosmokeaie,butonedayhisrofessorsaid,
"Igor,youwillhavetomakeuyourmindwhetheryouaregoingtobeagreatsinger,oragreatie-smoker,youcannotbeboth。
"Sotheiewent。
Delayedgratification
M。ScottPeck,M。D。,authorofthebest-sellerTheRoadLessTraveled,describesthistoolofdiscilineas
"arocessofschedulingtheainandleasureoflifeinsuchawayastoenhancetheleasurebymeetingandexeriencingtheainfirstandgettingitoverwith。
"
Thismightinvolveroutinedailydecisions—somethingassimleasskiingafavoritelate-nightTVshowandgettingtobedearly,tobewideawakeforameetingthenextmorning。Oritmightinvolvelonger-termresolves。Ayoungwidowwiththreechildrendecidedtoinvestherinsurancesettlementinacollegeeducationforherself。Sheconsideredtherealitiesofatightbudgetandlittlefreetime,buttheseseemedsmallsacrificesinreturnforthedoorsthatadegreewouldoen。Todaysheisahighlyaidfinancialconsultant。
Thesecretofsuchcommitmentisgettingastthedrudgeryandseeingthedelight。
"Thefactisthatmanyworthwhileendeavorsarentfun,
"sayssyndicatedradioandTVcommentatorMortCrim,
"True,allworkandnolaymakesJohnnyadullboy。Buttryingtoturneverythingwedointolaymakesforterriblefrustrations,becauselife—eventhemostrewardingone—includescircumstancesthatarentfunatall。Ilikemyjobasajournalist。Itsersonallysatisfying,bititisntalwaysfun。
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